I have been struggling with a relationship for a long time. A person who was very close to my husband and I. When my husband passed 9 years ago, this friend was there constantly and after a couple of years he professed his love for me which had been with him for 35 years. He is married but in name only. He still lives in the same house with her. She sometimes goes away with him but encourages him to take me when she is working.
We have been intimate, and I have tried to stop this part of the relationship many times. This last time has been for 7 months. He still visits me and wants to go on trips with me, but I know the intimacy would begin again.As it is it is very hard to not do anything when he visits.
He is very much a part of my kids and grandkids lives. We all love him very much. He won’t leave his wife as he would lose half of everything, he owns including his pension. I have tried dating others, but he keeps getting in the way. And so, I struggle with doing the right thing.
I am a Christian in every sense relying on God’s word and will to keep strong, but as I grow older, I want companionship in my life. I am 69 (life and love does not stop as we age) and it has been 9 1/2 yrs since my husband died. I should be content as my kids are close and my grandkids are close, and I do keep busy, yet something is missing. Any words from someone who has been there.
Thanks for this website (I just found it). It’s wonderful.
I am a Christian in every sense relying on God’s word and will to keep strong, but as I grow older, I want companionship in my life.
You can only find true companionship in God
I have never been in your situation but I can offer you my words. It is understandable for you to struggle with this man, as he must fill whatever you feel is missing in your life. Something you must remember is that although he brings you joy God would never choose a man for you if being with him was this difficult. God has something or someone somewhere waiting for you to make them happy and to do for you the same. I know it and you know it too. Keeping this man in your life can only hinder you from finding that gift from God. He truly does have something wonderful in store for you, you simply need to find it.
Please my sister stay in courage. As being a woman who was divorced and is now re-married I can relate to the void in your heart you may feel. Until I excepted in my heart that with or without a man I was whole and Jesus our Lord and savior was my all I needed. That’s when God sent the one for me. What your doing now is committing adultry whether physically or emotionally. Jesus said if you’ve done it in your heart you’ve already done it. Repent and let Jesus into heart and let him have complete charge over your life, reading his word, doing his word. Your sins will be forgiven and be married to Jesus. And if and when he sends someone one for you they will be in the word and will not cause you to sin against his name. No whoremonger, harlot, adultress has any inheritance in the the kingdom of God. I love my sister.
Rev 2:22
Indeed I will cast her into a sickbed, and those who commit adultery with her into great tribulation, unless they repent of their deeds.
Thanks….you have encouraged me greatly. I have no-one else to talk about this with, so this website is perfect to be able to share with someone who doesn’t know me. Thanks again.
I will pray for you if that will help. I am a christian but I have been backslidden for many years.I Hope you find what you are looking for.
You need to kick this man to the curb and find a husband of your own. As a grandma myself I would never even think of a thing like this. You need to be a christian example for your family. Please repent of this sin and get back into fellowship with your Savior. In Christian Love, Doylene
Hai there!
iam too young,(like your grand child) but i tel you you can find love, true love only in christ, no body could love you as god does, no man can, believe me!! just get away in a friendly way, god has many things in store for you, never ever think you are serving god when you are in love with a married man coz you are commiting adultery.Read bible whenever you feel lonely, oyu would know